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| Me and Dad- July 8, 2012 |
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The story of my father’s emigration to America is one of
legend.
Every New Year’s Eve he would tell us the story of his
departure from Ireland on that day in 1959 and each year the story seemed to
get bigger and bigger. If you sat down and made a list of people who were
documented as making the trip down to Cobh, it would well exceed the maximum capacity
of the Morris Minor that took them there. He was just 16 years old when he said goodbye to his family
that night. He was a teenager on his way to a new life in a new land.
My dad spent 54 years in America. He built a home with my
mother and watched his children have children. Although the majority of his
life was here in New York, Ireland was never far from his mind. Once in
America, he sent money home to his mother, kept a strong connection with his
brothers and sisters and visited as often as possible. Always aware of the important role that both places played in his life, my father decided to be
cremated and asked us to leave his ashes in those places that defined his time on Earth.
This weekend, my sisters and I brought our dad home.
We brought him to Clones, County Monaghan, Ireland.
We brought him to the house where he was born and spent the
first 16 years of his life.
We brought him to the church where he was baptized and received
his first communion.
We buried him alongside his mother and father.
His brothers, sisters, cousins, nieces and nephews were all
there to say goodbye.
After a beautiful mass and burial, we had a family lunch
attended by over a hundred McCaughey and McElroy cousins. There were relations
from all over the country, the large majority of whom I had never met before.
They came out for my dad and many introduced themselves and shared wonderful
memories of both my mother and father. Later that day (and well into the night) over twenty of my
first cousins gathered at the Cosy Bar in Clones. It was a wonderful night of
pints, stories, songs and chips. The only thing more satisfying than the
Guinness was the thought of how happy my dad would have been to see me and my
sisters with our Irish cousins.
On Sunday, a dozen of us drove up to land in County Tyrone that
has been owned by McCaughey’s for 270 years (for my American friends, George
Washington was a teenager back then). It is the place where the history of
the McCaughey’s was written. It’s where my grandfather was born and my father
and uncles spent the summers of their youth. It was a part of the official
Frank McCaughey tour of Clones with each trip to Ireland leading to an
inevitable visit. We went and
explored the house, said a prayer and shared stories. On the way out, my cousins and uncle climbed the hill overlooking the house and the loch and left some of dad
behind. It makes me happy to think of him being back there.
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| The lane to Clogher |
The Hill
My sisters and I were in Ireland for just over 48 hours.
Each minute was accounted for and each minute was wonderful. Although we know that things won’t ever
be as they once were, the trip and the task we completed provide a certain amount
of closure. After all that our father gave to us, this weekend we were able to
give a little back to him. I look forward to next New Year's Eve when we can not only tell the story of how dad came to America but also how we brought him home to Ireland.
