Parenthood and Google

Since my son was born, I've been wondering how people raised children before the internet (idiotic 21st century thought I know) but I'm guessing it was a lot of trial and error. Luckily, I have had Google. Here are some of the things I've looked up over the first 7 days with my baby.

pre-labor
signs of early labor
when should you go to a hospital after your water breaks
directions to beth israel (really procrastinated on this one)
how long should babies sleep
babies sleeping deeply
breastfeeding message boards
when can you start using a breast pump
forest hills pediatrics
famous birthdays november 6
can babies get gas from what a mother eats
how to swaddle
newborns and pacifiers
husbands help breastfeeding
how long do hemorrhoids last
nipple confusion
babies r us locations

Yup, that about sums up my first week of fatherhood. It's been absolutely fantastic so far, as my wife and I have done an admirable job adjusting to life with baby (with a little help from the internet of course.)

Football From Across the Ocean: The 2012/2013 Manchester City Preview

"Winning takes talent, to repeat takes character."

    -John Wooden

When Jamie Mackie headed home this goal against Manchester City last May, I felt sick.

After following every move of City over the previous nine months, I could not believe that it would all fall apart on the last day of the season against a team that was facing relegation. The next 25 minutes did nothing to allay my sickness but as we know, everything changed in extra time. I've been following sports my entire life and I've never seen anything that comes close to the "Miracle in Manchester" (summed up brilliantly in this video). All was lost until 2 goals in 4 minutes saved City and won them the title.

Three months later and the beginning of a new season in the Premier League is upon us. What are the biggest issues standing between City and a repeat championship? Let's take a look.

1)Will City get burned for a quiet summer?
-It's well known that defending champions play with a target on their back the following season. Over the next 9 months, City will be getting their opponents "best" 38 times but did they do enough to handle this pressure? On paper, the answer is a resounding NO as City only brought in one player on transfer in a young and oft-injured Jack Rodwell. However, three summers of wild spending has created a roster that is deep at multiple positions so City should still have a successful team. United and Chelsea both had big time off seasons but will they be enough to take over City?

2)Will the real Carlos Tevez please stand up?
-Two seasons ago, Carlos Tevez tied for the league lead with 2 goals. Last season found Carlos sinking more birdie putts in Argentina than goals in England. An off-season of transfer requests followed by the legendary Munich meltdown found Roberto Mancini writing off any future of Tevez in Manchester. However, an Aguero slump and a Balotelli meltdown found Tevez making a prodigal son like comeback for the last two months of the season that proved influential in the eventual title. What to expect this year? If you listed to Carlos, big things are on the horizon (this beauty of a goal in the Community Shield would back him up) but you never can tell with volatile Tevez.

3)What about Mario?
-The Easter Sunday loss at Arsenal was the nadir of the 2011/2012 campaign. Besides an apparent season ending loss, the lowlight of this match was the sending off and subsequent suspension of Mario Baltotelli. It not only opened the door for the return of Carlos Tevez but it also signaled the apparent end of Super Mario in Manchester (as if the fireworks, bebe guns and Lamborghini antics weren't enough). They say time heals all wounds, and after setting up the title winning Aguero goal and stealing the show at Euro 2012, Mario appears to be at the top of his game. The problem? The Argentinian duo of Tevez and Aguero seem to create a log jam up front, especially if Tevez gets off to a hot start. The way Mancini handles the line up will be an interesting sub plot for the season, especially since he bungled the use of Edin Dzeko last year, who saw playing time all but disappear after a brilliant start to the season.

4)Kompany, Silva, Yaya and??
-Before the late season swoon, the lowest point of City's play on the field last season came during the absence of Yaya Toure (African Cup of Nations and the suspension) and Vincent Kompany (suspension following an FA Cup straight red against United). Without Kompany, City was left with mistake prone Stefan Savic and the team struggled.  It goes without saying that having the captain on the field is of the utmost importance. In the midfield, the players surrounding David Silva and Yaya will say a lot about this team. You assume the Nasri will be there, but who else? James Milner showed signs of life last year before losing time to Gareth Barry while Adam Johnson is rumored to be going out on loan. I personally liked to see de Jong out there because his physical, defense first style gives Yaya the freedom to move further up the field which is where he is at his best. It will also be interesting to see what impact new signee Jack Rodwell will have.

So, can they do it? To go back to the John Wooden quote that started this blog, it takes a special team to repeat as champions. I know that City has the talent but the major question is, do they have the character? The presence of a captain that leads by example and players that lead by their play on the field makes me feel that City will get the job done.

Football from Across the Ocean: The 2012/2013 Premier League Preview

After one of the most entertaining seasons of sport that I have ever followed, we are back for a third consecutive year of football from across the ocean. A fantastic finish to 2011/2012 and a busy summer should result in another great campaign getting underway in just a few hours.

While I believe that the title will once again come down to the blue and red sides of Manchester (more on that later), I think the most interesting teams to follow this season might just be Chelsea and Liverpool.

Chelsea won an improbable double last year with the FA Cup and Champions League. They struggled in the league all year (finishing in 6th, an amazing 25 points behind City ) yet somehow managed to become champions of Europe. Those two titles reek of a team of veterans who were hell bent on giving the middle finger to a coach who thought he could take charge without their permission. While Chelsea fans benefited from this last year, they may start to pay for it this year. Those two championships basically forced Abramovich to hire Roberto DiMatteo who may or may not be suited for the job. I think Chelsea was a close second to United in the transfer market with the signings of Eden Hazard and Oscar but I'm not sure if it will add up to success in the league.

It's not crazy to think that it's more a matter of "when" as opposed to "if" in regards to success at Liverpool. After getting Swansea promoted two seasons ago, Brendan Rodgers enjoyed a very successful debut, leading the first Welsh team to play in the Premier League. Rodgers' brand of "Barca lite", possession football was both entertaining and effective last season with wins or draws against City, Arsenal, Chelsea and Spurs. Much like Bill Parcells, (who famously said that if you're going to cook dinner you should be able to buy the groceries) Rodgers held out for complete control of football operations and immediately made moves to bring in players that can play his game. In addition to the talent at Anfield already, players like Joe Allen and Fabio Borini should make positive contributions this year. I'll buy in on Rodgers and say that Liverpool push for the top four this year. (On a side note, I can't wait for the behind the scenes "Being Liverpool" on Fox Soccer starting in September)

Other thoughts on 2012/2013....


-I have no idea what to say about Arsenal. They lost Fabregas and Nasri at the beginning of last season and now Van Persie and (apparently) Alex Song this year. Last year, they struggled early on, but ended strong in third place in front of Spurs. The arrival of Lukas Podolsky and Olivier Giroud and the development of Alex Oxlade-Chamberlain should make it an entertaining season for Arsenal who might be better than people think after losing Van Persie. Heck, maybe even Jack Wilshere gets healthy and does something.

-I think that Spurs, Liverpool and Newcastle will be fighting for the final Champions League spot this year. I think Tottenahm is the perfect landing place for Andres Villas Boas as he takes over a team that, while having periods of success over the past two seasons, is still a low pressure situation. Newcastle was the surprise of last year and I expect more success from them especially with a full season of Pappis Cisse and more solid work from Tim Krul in goal.

-Brendan Rodgers and Swansea got most of "newly promoted success story" press last year but you can't forget about the work that Paul Lambert did at Norwich City. I'm interested to see how he does at Aston Villa, after a season in which the team was doomed from the start after hiring the coach of a team that was both relegated and their biggest rival. I'm thinking a finish towards the top half of the table is a possibility.

-I joined a Premier League fantasy league for the first time this year and it help me realize how much I like Everton. I have both Leighton Baines and Nikica Jelavic (who I expect a big year from ) on my team and when you add in Tim Howard and a Daniel Craig look a like coach, I think I have found my second team in the league.

-What would a preview from across the ocean be without a look at the Irish players in the EPL. I'm excited for a full season of James McClean at Sunderland as much as I'm worried about Shay Given at Aston Villa who might find time a little less guaranteed after retiring from the Irish team. I'm hoping that Shane Long can stay healthy for the year and perhaps Seamus Coleman will see more first team play at Everton.

-Where are my Americans at? Well as I write this I see that Clint Dempsey has been suspended for refusing to play for Fulham. Follow that up with his mysterious Twitter feed and this sounds like this is far from over. It seems like he got lost in the transfer shuffle with only two weeks before the window closes. This seems to continue to bad luck for Americans in the EPL as both Stuart Holden and Tim Ream got relegated along with Bolton on the last day of the season last year. It will be interesting to see i this affects their development/status on the USMNT.

Now for the good stuff.

There was a time in baseball where all that mattered was Yankees vs. Red Sox. Nationally televised games, documentaries and back to back ALCS's in '03 and '04 led many to (incorrectly) believe that the only baseball being played was in Boston and the Bronx. After the epic ending to the 2011/2012 campaign last year, there's reason to believe that the Premier League is heading toward a similar era but this time, instead of the teams being separated by hundreds of miles, they inhabit the city of Manchester. Although there will be teams that push them (with Chelsea being at the top of that list) you get the feeling that this year will mirror the last and end with a tight race between City and United.

Each team had the summer you think a first and second place team would have. After having the title pulled out from under them in a matter of seconds (the look on the faces of Fergie and Phil Jones in Sunderland after losing the title is classic) United worked the transfer market with a purpose, ending with the landscape shifting acquisition of Robin Van Persie and his little boy.  While the signing of RVP is huge, I think a full season of  Nemanja Vidić is even more important for United who didn't necessarily want for goals last year as much as sound defense.

City on the other hand had a shockingly quiet off-season, much to the dismay of the finely coiffed Mr. Mancini. Whether it be financial fair play or the inability to unload massive contracts, there has only been one move of note from City. While it's tough to feel bad for a man who has had a blank check for the past few years, it's easy to understand his frustration. After you win a title, everyone in the league is gunning for you and to not make any moves to improve your team (while everyone else is bringing in players in order to beat you) might dash any hopes of a repeat. With that being said, you won't find anybody feeling bad for City who still have an incredibly deep roster that will allow them to be at the top of the table all year.

Much like last year,  my brain is saying United but my heart is with City. The foundation of Kompany, Silva, Yaya and Hart, combined with the Argentine pair of Aguero and the fresh and resurgent Carlos Tevez (somewhat of a transfer player after only playing in 13 league games last season) will find City at the top of the table come May.

Predictions for 2012/2013
Top Four: City, United, Chelsea, Arsenal
Golden Boot: Carlos Tevez
FA Cup: Newcastle
Capital One Cup (sounds like college football): Manchester City
Top Newcomer: Eden Hazard

The Biggest Challenge I Face in my Classroom

In July, I spent a week at the University of Kansas studying the landmark Supreme Court case of Brown v. Board of Education. At the end of our day at the Brown national park site, the lead professor of the seminar shared with us a quote from W.E.B DuBois on segregated education and opened the floor to the participants to share their thoughts and reactions.

What happened next was a teacher led discussion on educational inequality starting with the segregated schools of the American South in the 1960's and leading up to today.  It was a very interesting 90 minutes, with 25 teachers from around the country exploring many issues from race, teacher effectiveness, parental involvement and their influence on education. As a teacher from New York City, my contribution to the discussion focused on the crippling affect that poverty is having on many of the students in New York City and around the country.

Teaching in the Bronx for the past two years has brought the issue of poverty crashing into my world. I teach students who can rarely stay after school for extra help or extracurricular activities because they need to go home and watch their siblings while their parents (or in some cases, parent) work. Over 80% of the students at my school qualify for reduced or free lunches based on their family income. These are just two of many examples that I could use to show that learning is just one of my challenges my students face each day.When my students step into my classroom each morning, many of them have already had a pretty tough day; education is often the furthest thing from their minds.

If you listen to the media in our country, the performance of American students does not offer much promise for our future. A report released in 2004 shows that American students rank toward the middle or back of the statistical pack on math, science and reading standardized tests when compared with 34 countries globally. However, recent studies have shown that affluent students score up to 40% higher on standardized tests when compared with low income students, an increase that would have an impact on the statistics found in the 2004 report mentioned above. While there are many issues facing education in America, the one with the most profound impact on our educational system is the gap found between rich and poor students.

This week, NY1 reported that up to 70% of students in New York City live at or below the poverty line. On a personal level, this article comes at the right time, as I begin to shift out of "summer" mode and prepare for the upcoming school year (call it Spring Training for Teachers if you will). This study is a reminder of not only how important my job is, but how challenging it is as well. I agree that quality instruction and teaching can make a tremendous impact on students but I'm also aware that there are many forces out of my control that impact my work as well, with poverty being at the top of that list.

This isn't a teacher making excuses (as I'm sure many people outside of the world of education would believe) but rather an educator who lives and experiences these issues everyday. We live in a world of "quick fix" solutions (over testing students, charter schools, vouchers, "for profit" education, etc) but poverty is an issue that goes beyond the classroom and thus cannot be "easily" tackled. As with all education issues, it is vital that teachers share their voice on this issue and push for change. From there, it is left to our government and policy makers to do what we need them to do and take on the most difficult issues facing America today, starting with the disparity between rich and poor and the devastation that extreme poverty is having on both our country and classrooms.

Meeting Mrs. Brown

I'm spending the week at the University of Kansas attending a seminar hosted by the Gilder Lehrman Institute for American History on the Civil Rights Movement, in particular the Brown vs. the Board of Education decision. I'm hoping to write a few times over the course of the seminar to share my thoughts on history, teaching and the fact that it's 106 degrees outside (apparently Lawrence, KS is located on the surface of the sun.)

As a history teacher, I am constantly reminded that the use of primary sources is the best way to enhance lessons and activities. While the use of documents and political cartoons is excellent, today I had the chance to work with the best primary source there is: a person who lived through the event.

Today our group had the chance to meet with Leota Brown Montgomery, the wife of Oliver Brown and mother of Linda Brown. The Browns, along with other families from both Kansas and around the country, fought for their children to have equal access to education in a case that was argued at the Supreme Court. While the landmark decision did not necessarily end segregation in our schools, it did give students of color the same educational opportunities afforded to white children. Hearing Mrs. Brown Montgomery talk about her life in Topeka and her family's experiences during the case that bears their name was amazing and is an experience I am looking forward to sharing with my students next year.

In addition to sharing stories of the Brown case, Mrs. Brown Montgomery provided much more. She is a living reminder that, although our country has made great strides in regards to race and equality, we still have many citizens who lived through the difficulties and struggles that made up so much of the African American experience in the 20th century.  These individuals help us remember that we aren't all that far removed from a time where American citizens were discriminated against because of the color of their skin. Since 2008 we have heard how far we have come because we have a black president. While this is true, we are also only 60 years (a blink of the eye time wise) removed from a time where parents had to send their children to schools far from home because of their race.

For Seamus

A six pack of Budweiser.

At each family party hosted at my parents house, I was in charge of getting the beer (no small responsibility in my family).  As a part of this task, I had to have at least a six pack of Budweiser in the cooler for my Uncle Seamus. Seamus loved cans of Bud (preferably in a beer koozie) and it was left to me to make sure there were a few available.

While I am a member of a stereotypical large Irish family, the large majority of my aunts, uncles and cousins live in Ireland. Growing up in New York, I had two sets of cousins: the Brewster McCaugheys and the Askins. Although not technically our first cousins (I believe my Aunt Bernie defines it as "first cousins, once removed"?)  the Askin family has been and continues to be a massive part of my life.  At the head of that family was Seamus Askin, a man who was there at every Christmas, Easter and St. Patrick's Day from childhood to today.

Last Thursday, Seamus passed away.

Over the weekend, my wife and I were talking about how his death felt a little different because of who Seamus was. I could call him a "renaissance man" but I don't think that cliche does him justice. The man was an absolute one of a kind. I can't say I've encountered anyone like my Uncle Seamus and I probably never will.

He was an Irishman, who not only came to this country but also proudly served it in the Air Force.

He was a son, brother, husband, uncle, "granda" and friend.

He had the best head of hair I've ever seen, man or woman; I don't think I ever saw one piece out of place. I started to believe that's what it looked like when he stepped out of the shower. He also had a little Dorian Gray in him. You could see a picture of Seamus Askin from 1975 and he would look the same way 10, 20 or 30 years later.

He was the perfect best friend for my dad in part because of their love of projects both large and small. I came home to Stewart Manor once and found them loading trees onto a truck. Once it was packed, they drove it out to our house in Montauk and spent the next day planting them all.

Both men were over 70 years old at the time.

Another time, they picked up a piece of furniture from Macy's, drove it in to Forest Hills and carried it up the stairs to my fifth floor apartment.

Again, they were both past 70 years old.

He knew a little bit about everything. As a kid, my parents would tell me there wasn't a trivia question he couldn't answer. I tried my best to stump him, but never succeeded.

He was a great host. The Askin St. Patrick's Day party was one of legend and Seamus was always there with a song and a story. When my cousin Eamon flew over from Ireland in 2009, Seamus picked him up at JFK, brought him back to Locust Ave. and gave the man a beer.....or four.....or five. Eamon was in rare form for the rest of the night thanks to Seamus' hospitality.

He waged war on squirrels for crimes against his garden. I don't know what the statute of limitations is on kidnapping squirrels, so I'll go no further. I will add that I never thought that a squirrel would be able to find it's way back to Floral Park from Jamaica Bay.

These are sad days for the family and all who knew Seamus Askin, which judging by the turnout over the last three days, is a lot. While he is no longer with us, we won't soon forget him. I imagine that anyone who knew Seamus could put together a list like the one above.

Tonight I'll have a can of Budweiser in a koozie for Seamus and remember the times gone past and a life well lived.

Cheers.

My Dad and the Boys in Green

In June of 1994,  the Rangers won the Cup, the Knicks lost the Finals and OJ was driving through Los Angeles in a white Bronco. I had also just graduated from 8th grade and was getting ready for summer, with freshman year in high school looming in the distance.

In June of 1994, the World Cup also came to America.

I am the son of an Irish immigrant. Prior to June of 1994, I had only visited Ireland once; a family vacation that I didn't remember much of because I was only 5 at the time. I always knew that a connection with my Irish heritage and family were important to my father and in June of 1994 the World Cup helped make that connection permanent.

One site of the World Cup would be just an hour from my home, at Giants Stadium. The first match? Ireland vs. Italy. My dad was able to get tickets and on the June 18th we made our way out to New Jersey.

Of the many memories that were created on that hot June afternoon, the one that I remember the most was the sight of the crowd. When we came out of the tunnel to go to our seats, we stepped into a loud sea of green. Out of the 80,000+ that could fit into that building, I could only see one section that wasn't wearing green or waving the tri-color. I knew the day would be special and it didn't disappoint. Ray Houghton scored, Ireland won and I was officially a fan of the "Boys in Green". In the following years, I would visit many pubs to watch many matches that often ended in disappointment but always left me wanting more.

I watched Jason McAteer beat Holland on the big screen at Slane Castle before U2 took the stage in 2001. (Bono called it the best opening act they ever had)

I stayed up late in New York to watch Matt Holland score against Cameroon and I got up early in London to watch Robbie Keane's extra time goal to earn a well deserved draw with Germany.

There was McCarthy, Kerr and Staunton, Trap and now the duo of O'Neil and Keane.

There were close calls, blown leads, losses in playoffs and of course the Henry handball in the Stade de France in 2009. The last European championship brought an end to a 10 year tournament drought but was also a competitive no show that ended quickly.

After a campaign that looked dead and buried a year ago, a stunner from Shane Long to shock Germany in Dublin helped Ireland qualify for the playoffs. A two legged win over Bosnia booked Ireland's ticket to France where it all starts today against Sweden (in the Stade de France no less)

I was thinking this week about why I was so excited for the Euros . Then, while messing around on YouTube, I came across a video of the aforementioned Italy match. After watching it, I looked at the following picture hanging on my wall and I realized why I care.

Here I am in all  of my awkward 13 year old glory with my dad and whatever dog creature was the mascot of the '94 World Cup

The love of this team goes back to Giants Stadium in 1994 and an amazing day that I got to spend with my dad. We ended up going to the after party that was held at the racetrack (I'm pretty sure my dad talked our way in) and we ended up driving two guys from County Monaghan back to Woodside, a move that only my father could make. These games and this team are important to me now because of how important is was to go to that match with my dad back then. It's a nice reminder of just how great my dad has been to me throughout my life.

Starting on June 13th,  I'll once again be cheering for Ireland, with passing thoughts of 1994 and going to that match with my dad.

Come on you boys in green.

Republic of Ireland Euro 2016 Schedule
All times listed in Eastern Time
Monday June 13: Republic of Ireland v. Sweden 12:00 PM (ESPN)
Saturday June 18: Belgium vs. Republic of Ireland 9:00 AM (ESPN)
Wednesday June 22: Italy vs. Republic of Ireland 3:00 PM (ESPN)